Random thoughts...

I think things are changing. Sensitive men is a sign of strength. What women don't want is a child for a boyfriend or husband. That means being thoughtful, considerate, responsible. If your woman takes care of you but sex has decimated it could be that the motherly role she has established by taking so much care of you makes you seem like their son. Don't fall into that pit. Clean up after yourself. Learn how to do your own laundry. Lots of little simple things that any person would have to do to survive alone.

I guess the point is. I understand both genders face issues and problems. I just feel like people aren't supportive of people with problems and our own gender is harder on us than anybody. Our problems get dismissed and we're told to have more confidence. I don't think saying men are oppressed in ways is wrong. Women are oppressed too. Everybody is oppressed in different ways. This is why its better to talk about these things in mental health places, because they actually try to help and don't mock you or dismiss your problems. i'm not trying to make this a man versus woman thing. i acknowledge women face issues. i'm not an incel. i know i can get a girlfriend. my point isn't about getting one. my point is i'm just tired the stereotypical way men have to be seen or act. what if i want to dress in pink hoodies and be a sub? am i going to get mocked for daring to stray from gender norms? i agree there @verucassault and sorry if i made it sound like i'm against women because i'm not. i defend women often against incels lol

what if i want to dress in pink hoodies and be a sub? @cero is the expert you want

I have not told you how many times I've been called a man beacuse I cut my hair and walked outside with hoodie and some sweatpants and was called a man and sometimes I'm not called being "a proper lady"

Not at all. I understand your frustration and get that Panda is. Shit isn't fair. We just have to try to change and make society better. For everyone.

I apologize that happened to you @liloreo you should be able cut your hair and dress anyway you like. you shouldn't have to live a certain way so you're seen as a proper lady. i think this is why society is messed up. for both genders.

@verucassault I generally go by the idea that the world is a terrible place and I just have to accept that, no amount of bitching and complaining is going to fix it for the better. I live by the idea that we stop complaining about our personal issues and trying to use them to win an oppression contest, that solves nothing and only drives a wedge between people. The more we try to fix societal problems, the more problems we create and that's how we ended up here.

@dyadka_yar i think the only way we are going to fix society is by complaining and wanting change. if we don't try to change anything, nothing can change. i want a woman president. i want blacks to be fully free. i want women to dress how they like. and yes i want men to stop facing oppression too. gender roles are so 1950.