What's your secret Fetish?

Sid, That's exactly what this thread is about. A fetish is not just a want or desire. A fetish is a need and honestly more uncommon than most think.

@yaasshat: Technically, you're absolutely correct. But for the sake of conversation, lets continue with the colloquial, albeit incorrect, usage. In other words, Shhh! I want to see what other weird shit these people like! Feel free to pitch in yourself, yaasshat~ I don't know you, I won't judge you!

I've already said that I'm quite vanilla in my tastes. Although, I've always wanted a woman who would just take control and dominate(I kind of have that now, but she's mostly very submissive.), but it wouldn't last long seeing as I know I'd take control or try to at some point. I also love lingerie on a woman. Clothes, especially skimpy/tight clothing, still leaves enough to the imagination while accentuating certain areas. There's actually a lot of good ones that were already mentioned here, I'm just not one who goes for extremes,I do like lite bondage though. My problem with just saying what I'd like is that I know what's in the mind usually doesn't play out as such in real life. I think too damn much...XD

@loli: That sounds pretty hot! I want to pry further, but...yeah, as you've said. Not exactly for all audiences around here. @yaasshat: Strange how BDSM-type relationships are now considered vanilla. Or maybe these attitudes have always been present, but up until now, pop culture has made people be more forthright in their sub or dom-flavored fantasies. What I want to know, and maybe you guys can help me out, is why the submissive behavior from males? I really want to understand the appeal. You're not in control! You can't do as you please, you can't cross any moral boundaries established by society...whats the appeal to being dominated? My ultra fantasy is taking a really strong, dominant girl. One that is so self-reliant, independent, sassy....and breaking her down. Just the thought of overcoming someone so strong and stand-alone is amazing. Reducing them to wanton neediness or even tears...I'd imagine it'd bring so much satisfaction.

"What I want to know, and maybe you guys can help me out, is why the submissive behavior from males? I really want to understand the appeal. You're not in control! You can't do as you please, you can't cross any moral boundaries established by society...whats the appeal to being dominated?" Most girls want me to take control so it's kind of boring really and even when you are in control, you aren't really. You usually can't "cross any moral boundaries" unless you are with a girl into unusual types of sexuality because they will just tell you to stop if they don't like something and crossing that is rape. Being dominated is kind of a release. You don't have to make decisions or think of things to do maintain the entertainment etc. "My ultra fantasy is taking a really strong, dominant girl. One that is so self-reliant, independent, sassy....and breaking her down. Just the thought of overcoming someone so strong and stand-alone is amazing. Reducing them to wanton neediness or even tears...I'd imagine it'd bring so much satisfaction." That is actually a pretty common fantasy but few guys tend to admit it except privately/anonymously because that obviously implies rape. I like going completely opposite normal gender roles why I like girls that would normally seem super innocent acting seductive and slutty and dominant.

@Nyq I kind of agree with you on what you said in the sense that I'd like more of a challenge if I really wanted to dominate, but I wouldn't want to reduce a woman to tears really. Also, neediness would be a turn off to me, yet her extremely wanting me because of the dominance thing over her, would be satisfying. @Loli_vamp On a certain level I agree with you on the fact that giving a woman control is somehow easier, because you don't have to do as much and frankly, it would be the same as a girl wanting you to me dominant: neither you nor the girl is actually submissive. You as a dominant guy give the girl permision to be 'dominant'. Also, I don't understand why you'd bring up rape. Sometimes the most dominant women truly want to be dominated, which wouldn't make it rape. Also, if she doesn't want to do something, just don't do it.

@sanfi, well we are talking about fantasies. What we want in fantasies and what we would actually do are sometimes different. Fantasies that cross moral boundaries so to speak are very very common because something that is forbidden is often arousing just because it is forbidden. Most people have a moral filter to prevent them from doing certain things in real life even if they might have fantasies for a variety of practical reasons but rape fantasies are very common. Even some women have fantasies of being raped but fantasy and reality are completely different. Fantasies are great because you can imagine any scenario. Real life doesn't always react like you want and there are always consequences for your actions.

@Loli_vamp I agree with you on that, though I have no fantasies that I wouldn't be able to act on in real life without breaking any laws. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned like that, but I don't really fantasise about things that are morally wrong. Rough sex? Sure, but only if he/she likes it like that. I'm not judging anyone, when I say that, though. Your fantasies are your business as long as you don't act upon them when they are against the law

>girl on bondage. http://i.imgur.com/ap6cPsp.jpg Men are fine too, but I like it on girl better. ^~^