Are you looking for a Relationship or friends on this site?

I dunno how to call you, the Asian characters girl, yeah, lots of rushing through just for a bit of comfort, many get used by their partners because of this, lots of misunderstandings, fights and drama. After witnessing everything my friends went through it left me a bad taste for attempting to try it as well

@judge I can actually relate to both of those in a way. For me, it's fear that now that I'm no longer young and I'm inexperienced, no one will ever want me. And social pressure exists in that literally everyone I know or meet has someone except me. Like, my younger sister will likely be getting married before I've ever even been on a date, and it's also likely I'll still be a virgin when she starts having kids. It's not even just that I don't have a girlfriend, its also that at my age it's really, really hard to make and hold on to friends. I actually have no close friends that live near me. Finding a girlfriend sometimes feels like the only option if I don't want to be alone all the time. That said, I do have high enough standards (yes, single guys are allowed to have those >.<) that I won't just jump into a relationship with someone I don't think is right for me, nor will I jump into a relationship for the wrong reason (I did recently kinda turn someone down for reasons relating to both). But loneliness has become extremely stressful. @ayu I'm pretty sure everyone still knows her as Enki To answer the OP question, a girlfriend would be great, but finding real friends and getting new social experiences would be great too.

@Densetsu my apologies, I didn't knew they called her Enki, I will be sure to remember it! answering your own plea, is finding a partner one of your goals in life? like... Wont you reach a happy ending unless you actually are paired up with someone? If you can find a way to be blissful with your own hands, without relying on someone else, I think then... You will have won the game of life. This is my own perspective so, it may be different for you!

@Densetsu, I can relate, most people have not experienced true loneliness, I feel ya, stressful. @Ayu, All valid points, if you asked me that question a year ago I would have said I would be happy dying single, I'm not sure what changed my mind, maybe because I've begun to exhaust things I enjoy alone, I've watched and read more than most people will in their lifetime. After years and years of being alone, it begins to feel more like existing than living. For example I really want to go to Japan, but I would much rather take a SO than go alone, it would be a completely different experience that you can't have alone if that makes sense? Anyway end depressed textwall, I'm not sure what I'm looking for here anymore to be honest lol

@Ayu I'm sorry, I hope you didn't think I was like, snapping at you or anything with my wording. I worded it the way I did because she changes her display name a lot. To answer your theory, I kinda felt that way when I was your age too. Things change when you start pushing 30 though. Those close friends start to disappear into relationships and marriage, and it becomes harder and harder to make new ones because nobody your age is single anymore, and people with careers and relationships rarely have time for friends. It's like what bob said; at some point you feel more like you're just existing than living. Doing things by yourself becomes boring, that boredom becomes loneliness, and gradually your solitude begins to feel less and less by choice. It feels like life has left you behind. My advice is, stay true to your standards, but if you do meet someone with real potential, don't pass the opportunity by because of some ill-perceived image of the "glory" of being able to do everything by yourself. I know people that have made that decision. There is no pride or bragging rights worth forcing this lifestyle on yourself for, and you WILL regret it later in life. Take advantage of being young while you can, because you're not going to be young forever.

I don't like jumping right into relationships, it doesn't feel particularly fair for either party, at least in my mind. So rather I'm here to find like-minded friends, without any expectation beyond that. If both of us feel comfortable and want something beyond that, then fantastic, and that doesn't have anything to do with the website at that point. But again I'm seeking friends to see how we click, what things we can talk about, share interests and ideas.

Like you all said very well, I don't think being single is bad or sad but the only problem is being alone because not knowing your needs neither the needs of other people makes you more and more alone. The loneliness is hard to be in but harder to stop and move forward is a very difficult step to achieve. I realize that now when I'm still young enought to socialize more to change this vicious circle that is lonelyness (for friends and for love). Having high standard is great but not wanting anyone is a lie to yourself.