How to deal with bigoted evangelical parent

@OblivionsReaper: I know exactly how you feel. My mother dropped by unannounced just last Sunday for the first time in years, got drunk, and started ranting about muslims and (Her words) "Sand niggers" like Obama. Spouting blind religious rhetoric in my face, and trying to convince me that Trump is who I should vote for. Lets just say there's reasons I don't associate with the West Virginian side of my family, and its really hard to get through to her about things like why I don't have a girlfriend yet, why I can't just date whoever she tosses at me when I'm dragged to the bar, or my complicated views on spirituality. Regardless, I am glad she's still alive. I just wish she was the kinda mother I was proud to introduce my friends to without worrying about ratcial, bigoted tension.

@OblivionsReaper The reason why I rarely come here nowadays is because how mean and close minded many ppl on this site are. The ppl who said those harsh things to you are this site's meaner members and I tend to evade them. You'd think a place like this would have friendly ppl, but that's not really the case, many members have left this site due to this reason(though I know there are other reasons) So yeah, Don't come here with depression or suicidal thoughts, ppl like Gudmoore,Xynox,Mariahaise etc will tear you apart! That's the warning. Anyway I said my peace. I'm out.*deactivates*

>I call it being a realist. Here's the thing: He didn't ask us for morality. He asked what he should do - the most effective way is to remove yourself from the situation. I tried for years to make my father less racist and hateful of trans people, but parent's have a "wisdom complex" which means they won't generally take advice from their kids. I didn't say it was morally right, or that he should do that, but its the action that would give him the result he wants.

Moving out could work if he was able to take care of himself. Until he learns to manage his money and function alone, logic says that moving out would be a terrible decision. I'd rather him endure another few months of so called, "emotional abuse," and use that time to prepare to leave than to end up broke, homeless and hungry by leaving unprepared because he can't take his mothers opinions. My advice has been there in black and white for him to read. If instead he wants to act offended and triggered by said advice, then it's on him. You don't have to like your parents, but at the very least you should respect what they've given up for you enough not to badmouth them to random people on the internet.

Your disbelief of emotional abuse is wrong - it does exist. And while it may be different than he's describing, there is certainly no question that emotional abuse does exist. I'm a victim of it myself. He has no reason to lie to us. Nothing to gain. He didn't get triggered either. He didn't ask for it so he responded in the most natural way he could. I'm a strong believer in giving people what they want, within reason. Regardless, I grew up in a not-so-good household, and I can tell you that parents may give stuff up to have a child, but they don't always give it up willingly, or with grace. Invalidating his dislike/hatred for his parents isn't what he asked for.

That list is so wrong Makes no sense owo All those people are very nice lol

@Elder_Reaper I'm not saying that emotional abuse doesn't exist, but as you said, it's different than what he's describing. I've seen CPS ruin too many families for false allegations like this, while it won't have any bearing on him being as he's 19. Claiming emotional abuse is something that can severely affect his mother and her ability to have contact with any grandchildren she may or may not have. Or even have in the future. I've seen family friends lives destroyed due to personal grudges and false reports. So it absolutely infuriates me to see it happen. If he's saying these things to random people on the internet, who knows whom he's saying it to locally. Emotional abuse is real, but it should definitely not be claimed so lightly.