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Do guys like it when girls ask them out first?

senhin
Depends what you class as asking out? If you mean in terms of just going out and doing something, then no not necessarily (though if it were to happen not sure how I'd handle it. Only ever been asked out once, and it was by a guy who though I was a girl when I was young...). If you mean ask out in the sense of be in a relationship then yeah.
mariahaise
Oh I meant just going out lol
senhin
I don't see why someone wouldn't like it. If the person is really shy, then sure it may make them feel really nervous, but heck less so than the nerves they'd get if they tried to ask the person themselves so that's not exactly a bad thing. If it were to happen to me I'd prefer it not to be in front of people though, especially if it were someone I had no interest in as I'm already bad at saying no and would be really bad in front of others. Though, if you're fine with emotional blackmail ask them in front of everyone and make sure they are watching. That would make it so much harder to say no :P But yeah, there's no problem with the girl asking as such. It's just the same as if a girl would like a guy to ask her out, and is entirely dependent on whether that person likes, or is at least open to the idea of liking, the person doing the asking. And if we are talking about asking people in the sense of going out on a date rather than having known a person for a while already and wanting a relationship, then you have the advantage of being pretty which will always help because in that kind of scenario, no matter how much of a "nice guy" and "all about personality" someone is, looks still play a big part in something like that. I was just reading through the rest of the topic and you've already asked and been rejected it seems :/ That sucks. But don't let that discourage you if you ever feel the urge to ask someone again, it just wasn't meant to be this time. And a little disclaimer to all of this - I'm really not experienced in this kind of thing so that's all probably of little use to you :P
mariahaise
Hahaha don't worry I appreciate it
basedsempai
Like stated above, it all matters on the type of guy you are pursuing. If the guy is shy, submissive & always nervous when talking to people he likes(not a bad thing at all) then making the first move will be your only way of ever getting something going with that said person. I'll play devils advocate on this one. On the other hand, if he is assertive.. why hasn't he made a move on you yet? I don't know the situation but could he perhaps already have put you in the friendzone? or the other option would be are you confessing to a guy that hasn't, sorry for you cliche phrase but "noticed you"? If you have known the guy for a while and he hasn't confessed to you and you know he is the assertive/dominant type, you could perhaps be in the friendzone. Just giving the other sided opinion, not trying to start anything hopefully you recognize that. Hopefully it works out for the best Maria ^^
basedsempai
Oh this thread is old lmao ignore what I have to say, probably irrelevant at this point :3
mariahaise
Yeah it kinda is haha still I appreciate the opinions
lovely_complexities
I'm sorry it didn't end the way you wanted it to maria, but there'll always be more fish in the sea, hopefully with a good enough personality to attract you :3 Personally, I like making the first move. I'm an impatient person lol, and I feel like there's little point in waiting for something to happen when you can just make it happen yourself. Whether it's worked or not... has seen varying success. xD I'm actually really surprised that so many guys here would prefer it for a girl to ask them out. From my experience, it's mostly the opposite. xD
chief650martin
I prefer that a girl ask me out, the reason is that guys prefer this is because it makes the guy feel good about himself because he had a girl ask him out, see I'm BI so if i was asked out from either sex i feel lucky that someone found me great enough to be asked out. So ladies it's fine to ask them out, hell if i had a nice women ask me out or a handsome man ask me out right now i'd most likely say yes and see where it goes
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