Is cheating acceptable?

@salgahna I was about to say something very similar to what manga_bird said. It doesn't make you a bad person, but I think it's important to recognize that the action was wrong and do your best not to repeat it. I don't think it's good to try and minimalize what was done or act like it was okay. Accept that a mistake was made and try to move past it and be better. Same goes for him with his unwillingness to let you go. It's very rarely ever entirely one person's fault with these things. Also, note that I can't fully understand the details of your situation, so this is merely my opinion based on the information you've given us, and let me make it clear that I don't think badly of you at all for it. On the contrary, trying to be open and honest about it is very admirable. We've all done things we aren't proud of.

If I didn't cared about him, I wouldn't try to break up with him without hurting him. In the end I just got so angry that I confessed. For me, and for what I've been, cheating is bad, is always bad, but the feeling while doing it is what makes the person bad. If you cheat so that you can fuck, that's wrong. If you cheat like I did, I understand why people would doubt you, that's enough punishment.

if your in a cuckold relationship otherwise no

Will be never acceptable for me, already happened in the past. If someone betrays me like this after I put my trust into that person - its over, I am not able to trust that person again... And thats far too important for me

Why am I in this? Teku love maybe you should take a seat and eat a cookie. Your causing problems dude.

"Is cheating acceptable?" No. Just no.

Salganha you might not like what I'm about to tell you, but you were manipulating him. It might not have been intentional, but your wishy washy attitude towards the relationship made him feel as if he had to try harder and harder or he'd lose the effort he had put into it for you. This is why he grew to become so sacrificial. He probably recognized, whether then or later, that he was being dumb, but it was effectively a brainwashing he could do nothing but listen to. So you only made it clear for him after he put in too much in it for you, and it likely crushed him didn't it? You were giving him the hope that it could work and that everything could be perfect, when that reality was never going to come true. So I won't sugarcoat it. What you did to him was wrong, both the cheating and your attitude towards him. You didn't know better, but you should have known better, and you hurt someone for it. I'm not saying you need to repent. Just that I hope you'll try to do better for the next love in your life.