How do I tell the person who says they love me that I only feel the same in a brotherly friendly kind of way..?

Thats a mouth full I know but I just don't feel the same and I don't want to crush his heart.. I feel so awful. Anyway I can tell him in the nicest way possible??

Well, first off, this isn't your fault that you didn't get the same type of romantic love that he had. And, you shouldn't feel awful about it either. This is something that couldn't be helped, miscommunication with the heart and mind, and then you get this. I'm only happy that you didn't fake your love into a relationship that you wouldn't want. All I have to say is, you have to give it to him straight, gently as possible, but let him know that this isn't the type of relationship you were looking for. Go into details on how you see him more as a brother, than a lover. Then say, that you really want him to stay with, since that is the case, because this bond that you have with him is to important to lose? I hope this goes well with you! Best of luck! Stay confident, and know what you want!

There really is no easy way to let him down other than to just tell him you only see him as a friend. You might end up losing him as such too but it's just a risk you take when you open up to someone and they don't feel the same way. A lot of men have a built in defense mechanism of stopping contact all together when a girl they like rejects them. They don't want to continue pursuing a relationship with someone who doesn't feel the same way nor do they want to be around you when you're dating someone else because it's too emotionally stressful to them. It's nothing a girl does or is there really anything you can do to prevent it. A lot of guys are fine with staying friends but you do have to be prepared for that contingency if it happens after you tell him.

Thanks Captain Seki and Cecil! Reading these makes so much sense to me :) Makes me feel better as well knowing what could possibly happen instead of going into it blindly. I guess I just need to breath and say what needs to be said gently and hope for the best C:"? Really glad I got such quick replies ^U^ thank you two so much!

I can tell you from experience that this will be quite painful for him. Cecil is right about the defense mechanism thing. One day the only thing you want is to be with her and the next you just want to distance yourself from the whole thing. Though it's not because his feelings have changed, it's because they haven't. In my case, we are still friends and we keep in touch. Things were never quite the same after that though. When you get older you realize the most important thing is having that person be a part of your life. Not a day goes by that I don't wish I had made a different choice.

suck his dick. That'll always gets the message across. Or just tell him that you're not interested. Being direct always helps

Thats sad cogitovirus :c... i guess its one of those things u just cant avoid.. I will really take your words into consideration when I tell him. Thank you so much :) it means alot that just other people are willing to help ^U^

I asked a girl out on a date once, she acted all cool about it, 2 days later we went on said date. After the date she got all quiet text wise and stuff. 3 days later she told me she was already seeing someone, and some of her friends were telling me we just went out as friends. Well she didn't tell me that beforehand and it hurt. Better to just let them know right away.