how to get over fear

iv been in several relationships and they have left me with a fear of getting used and thrown away i was wondering if ther was anyone on this site with any advice on how to get over that fear

"Everybody plays the fool sometimes, There's no exception to the rule ..." The problem is that real life is not for wimps. Real life is often cruel but if you want to end up with someone special you have to be willing to kiss a bunch of toads in the search. Wish I had some magic pill to make it easier, but the hard truth is you either dance or you don't. And the ones who quit dancing end up under a bridge somewhere scaring small children. The good news is you are young. Have the courage to look for your soul mate. I have been beaten down a bunch of times but refuse to quit. If I can keep going, so can you.

once you get the fear once its really hard to get rid of it, I still have it from every relationship I've been in. The best you can do is grin and bare it until you find the right one, I'm not going to lie and say there won't be any problems cause there will be, your going to find people who will use you all I can say is good luck and hope you find someone :/

Just don't let what you fear get the best of you.I had experience two heartbreak before.But that didn't stopped me.If someone breaks your heart,just smile and go on with your life.It may be hard.But its always best to forget an broken heart.Just wait patiently the right person,will come along.I'm waiting for the right guy to come along.Just don't give up.

Best way to get over fears is the same as for phobias. Progressive and repeated exposures until you are desensitized. Just accept that your partner will leave you. Just as you are trying to find that perfect match, they are trying to find their perfect match, well unless they are gold diggers, lol.

@cpbong- I can do without the gold diggers. But your advice sounds good. Downside is that I don't go to clubs and I only average three cons a year at most, so I don't get the exposure I need to get over my dating fears.

If you are to get into another relationship just take your time with it. If you get to know the person well enough it will lower the chances of you jumping into a relationship with someone who will use you. I believe there is a person out there for everyone. ^_^