Do you believe posting in the forums helps find a mate?

Simple question but I would believe a difficult answer. With most new people (Women especially) getting hounded by people as soon as they join, do they actually read the forums? I would think most dont, if they dont deactivate their account. I would think that, especially recently over, say, a year ago, that post in on the forums and putting yourself out there does little to no help anymore. Does this mean in order to actually find a match, you have yo be like the creeper and just start messaging every person you find attractive in an attempt to find somebody? Your thoughts?

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I feel that is not true but I understand where you are coming from posting in the forums all depends on how you post really. Say you post simple answers to things then more then likely you will not attract attention. However creeping on profiles does not really work either unless you actually making interesting post and are trying to get to know them. There are females who look at the forums and a few I know for sure who take part in them. It all depends really like I stated how you post, not that you should post a certain way though.

Just because your thread isn't getting any hits. Doesn't mean people aren't noticing it. Not everyone will be interested, nor write a random comment. However, I believe most aren't viewing the forum in general. I think your, and anyone's, best odds, would be to message random people. Just like those creeper freaks. Sure, it "hurts" your chances. But take other dating sites for example. There are no forums, or wall comments on some of them. Instead, people get flooded with messages in their inbox. Lol... Just because you can see these messages, doesn't change anything. And besides...the majority of the creepers are clearly unintelligent... Just show people that you're better than those freaks. Socialize like an actual person. You never know till ya try, start contacting people that you might be interested. But keep doing the whole forum thing as well.

Hey, I may have found someone and it was through a forum topic post ;) so in short yes its possible. Maybe not likely but possible.

Both. The forums can give you an edge, but they aren't nor will they ever be nearly enough. This site isn't nearly big enough to the point that the forums aren't seen, but the average person ( male or female) is just to lazy to facilitate them. Those that may peruse the forums, might happen upon some of your wonderful witticisms and think you sound like a guy they'd like to get to know better. If they don't use the forums, you've still got all of your bases covered.

True it is best to do a combination of the two. Agreed there shin There definitely is a influx of inactivity lately but this has happened before many times then within a little time the forum started getting active again. However making post both on the profiles of people you are interested in instead of creeper comments and taking part in the forums shows a personality that you give when you do post it allows people to see from your writing who you are which does help. Besides going by your profile.

Can I be honest? I am truly a cynical person, so I feel like no matter what I post it's not going to do me any good... Just how I feel. Others may differ in opinion.