So, yes, a question for the ladies (you're getting a lot tonight)

So yes. My ex recently left me, said I was too irrational. To cut to the chase, the reason why she said this was because we were pretty much fwb, I wanted a relationship, she wasn't sure. Anyway, does wanting to be in a relationship really make me irrational and selfish for asking, or was this just some cop out excuse to end the casual thing? The problem obviously being that I was growing feelings for said person, therefore could that has led to all this? I'd like a woman's unbiased opinion of this before I start feeling shitty about this whole thing. If you want more info, post what you want and ill get back to you.

She probably called you irrational because she was being defensive, because she was scared of commitment. So it was either her, or the both of you just aren't right for each other, which is OK.

Did she say that you were irrational for wanting to be with her? That specific reason? I don't understandbut I feel like there was more to it.

I was irrational because I wanted a relationship, and she wanted to be casual. I kept asking her to be with me, but she kept saying she would think about it. She finally told me I was being irrational and clingy for asking her, and for acting like we were dating. In all fairness, she was enjoying it too, we actually felt like we were inn a relationship, my feelings grew while hers didn't. That's why she calls me irrational. She says she was open from the beginning g about wanting to be casual... in the end its my fault for accepting it, even though I dont like casual relationships. i was delusional in thinking I could change her mind. :/

Hmmm, well, its often that in "casual relationships" one side develops stronger feelings. It wasn't irrational but those are situations to avoid when you don't want to be in them. If the other side is suggesting the casual relationship, the chances are that they aren't going to want to be in a real relationship with you and will get annoyed if you ask in the future (which you found out).

Well, it's not irrational of you at all. You want what you want out of a relationship. If she doesn't want the same, then that doesn't really mean you have to change what you want (in this case). Also, if she wanted something less formal, and you would have given in, then it would've led to a (perhaps) bad situation. FWB don't work out so well when one gets more attached than the other person. I hope you're alright, and best of luck in the future. No you were not irrational, basically. It might have been a good thing that this relationship ended since fwb bring a lot of messy situations with them? I don't know, but, well, good luck.