Why is trying to find a significant other a drag?

I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm 24 years old and I try with all my heart and I still cannot get a gal to save my life. I mean what the hell do I gotta do to get one? I mean what do they like? They say they like a man with confidence they need to stop feeding me that loathsome talk. I talk to gals causally, try to be there friends, and this and that, but it's always the same. I talked to this foreign exchanged student at my school and I talked to her about the country that our origins are from. Anyway to make a long story short I asked her if she would like to go out and get to know the state better, she took my number, and then I asked her for hers, but she said that she will text me. But I already know that she's just being nice. Why can't women have the balls to tell me the truth that they don't like me? How in the hell am I supposed to get a woman if not talking and talking doesn't do anything?

No one ever said this would be easy. My advice would be to take it easy. If you continue, you'll one day run into one, though you'll be going through alllllllloooooooooottttttttttt of gals before that happens. If you have the patience and audacity to tolerate it, then with time you'll find that special someone. But don't come off as desperate though, because believe me, women will sense your desperation. Nonetheless good luck on your search.

Well then what's the point? I mean do women like guys that talk or don't talk? It's getting annoying. I've considered becoming not interested in anyone.

So when people say "have confidence" you have to add a "in yourself" to that. When you ask "I mean do women like guys who talk or don't talk?" it shows you trying to mold yourself into what they want and not being yourself. Also, you can't generalize a whole gender into a "do they, or don't they" or "what they like or don't like". Do your thing and find a girl that you for real have a connection with and you do that by being yourself.

Also it depends on the girl really. But maybe it's best to no longer be interested in searching seeing how stressed you're getting from all of this.

Lol im afraid both make and females have that feeling and everyone gets down about it thru the yrs. Some people get blessed and the rest of us just keep hoping for that special moment where we find that special someone. Best to not dwell on it. It's the dwelling that brings ya down.

It's not just girls. Guys do it too. For me, I can't be mean to someone. But if someone would ask me if I like them in the way, I can be honest about it. It's only if I'm asked though. I just don't randomly say it. XD But I know the feeling so well though. I can really relate to you. I'm going to be 25 in March so my age is bringing me down on this as well.

^They say 30 is the magic number because that's when guys start to care less and start to just be out there more with women because they know that they need to get some soon before it's too late xD ANYWAYS. I got nothing for you superrage just keep trying there are always people worse off out there. Wow I haven't posted in anything other than introductions in a while...

I'll bite. I'm 25 years old and soon to be 26 and I never even held a girl's hand before. I can say me finding a significant other is pretty much impossible. Once you're in your mid twenties and up, you literally have to search. Many ppl our age are already content with what they have and care not to have more ppl, be it BF/GF friends etc. Furthermore at work or school, lots of ppl are only there to get what they need done and not care for any sort of friendships or relationships, add more to it, that after school or work they have other responsibilities to take care of they won't the time or energy for you. Sure there's clubs,bars etc. Bbuuuutttt not many of us(myself included)don't like those kinds of environment. The difficulty is especially high if you're a geek, since not many ppl are geeks, you can't be open about it, without being ridiculed and looked at weird, what's worse is when one geek meets another, one if not both always makes it too difficult to communicate and form a bond due to social issues,or pickiness, or extreme fantasies they were hoping for, and lastly as you get older the difficulty for finding someone increases, be it love or friendship. With that said that's why I've pretty much given up on ppl as a whole really. That's pretty much what I learned.

One more thing I forgot to mention, even if you miraculously find someone(friend or GF/BF) keeping the bond strong is ALOT of work, and quite frankly most ppl are overwhelmed by that and thus betrayal,divorces,break ups etc. occur. The person you've been friends with or been married to can all of a sudden stop caring and no longer wish to salvage the bond. So there's that too. This is only reality though. I'm sure we all want to live in a fictional universe where everything is sunshine and rainbows, but sadly it is not. So them's the works.