milkycows

I definitely agree with CrossBones's statement regarding expectations about relationships. Don't get too worked up about not having been in a relationship at your age! I have some close friends around my age (23-26) who haven't had their first relationship either. You'd be surprised how many guys out there are on the same boat tbh. Just be yourself and be natural, no need to try and go overboard to impress anybody. Maybe it's just me but from my experience people in general like open mindedness and being able to talk to someone about anything without the worry of being judged, looks can only get you so far. Of course that doesn't mean that you'll hit it off with girls you meet all the time but I would say that's a great start! Some girls will be attracted to you and others wont but there's no need to be discouraged. Your chance will come soon enough and it will be up to you to decide if you want to take it or not :) The next time you chat with someone you find interesting just say something like "It'd be really nice to get to know you better! Mind if I get your number?". The approach matters too! Spread those positive vibes and i'm sure there's bound to be someone who will take interest in you! Friends with benefits can be fun and all but it's definitely not for everyone especially if you often find yourself getting attached emotionally to others. Especially considering that either you or them could potentially be seeing/meeting other people at any point as well. If you're bothered by this then I would advise not to try it out unless you're 100% of what being fwb entails. Try not to focus so adamantly on finding "love". Instead try finding out what qualities you like/don't like in a girl so that when the opportunity comes for a serious relationship, you will know what to look out for. Relationships aren't always fun and games and there will be times where it really helps knowing how to handle certain situations and being able to realize if your relationship is a healthy one or not. Sorry if I seem too naggy >__< I was just trying to give my two cents from my experiences! I really respect how despite having social anxiety you're still going out there trying to meet new people :) If anything feel free to DM me if you'd like to discuss more privately