jlreid28

@Riolis It mostly has to do with shaming on both genders. In the US it's an unspoken rule that I've guys ask girls out first, it's creepy. And if the girls ask the guys out first they're sl*ts. This and other issues make it extremely unpleasant which is why when I ask girls out, I do it on my own terms and usually outside the usual scenes.

Even though I've never been in a serious relationship I feel that falling in love for me personally involves more than "just being there" for someone. See I was raised in the rural part of the southern United States and the big thing is if the men actually stay for the girls, and what the girls try to do is find guys as "projects" in order to fix. In other words it was a nightmare filled with insecurity, divorces, and bad relationships. For especially myself, when I fall in love I want to become enmeshed with my significant other's world; and know how she wants to grow, live and do what's right. Basically love for me is a becoming part of a pair of unified purposes, emotional nourishment, and building a life based off of happiness, kindness, and understanding. No more pretenses, no more holding on to "empty nights", no more "being there for a short time, but having a good time". I want to have and be a meaningful companion to a wonderful human being. Needless to say I really do have issues with the dating culture in the US, but I still feel that I can find that special someone, it's just that I have to put on strong filters and build my confidence up.